There are an incredible number of tips for successfully finding a partner, but not all of them are truly useful, and some are best forgotten right away. Generally speaking, little distinction is made between the genders, but there are a few differences. Creating a profile on a dating site is significantly more important for women than for men, so they should definitely take enough time to do it right. A profile that’s filled out hastily, carelessly, or without much thought is often overlooked or leads to false conclusions. Even choosing the right username is crucial for a successful search for a partner on a dating site.
The Right Nickname Matters
Women over 30 who call themselves “Little Mouse,” “Bunny,” and the like come across to men as rather immature, timid, and small. It’s a good idea to choose a nickname for the dating site that fits your personality. This could, for example, describe a hobby, a standout trait, or something similar. In any case, it should suit the woman behind the nickname. While your own name would certainly be a suitable option, wouldn’t you also get bored and just click away if you came across the 20th Martin, Peter, or Steffen? Men feel the same way—in fact, it’s not uncommon for them to stop looking at the profile altogether. A name that sounds frivolous or similar will certainly get a lot of clicks and might lead to a contact or two, but it definitely won’t be taken seriously.
Men are more likely to be attracted by appearance
Anyone who knows this should also know that a good, appealing photo can be absolutely crucial when looking for a partner on a dating site. A good photo shows the face of the single man or woman. It hasn’t been overly edited or altered beyond recognition. A friendly smile is just as important; when choosing a photo, you should make sure above all that it reflects who you are. Women are welcome to wear a little makeup, but not too much. Men don’t like women who spend half the day in the bathroom in front of the mirror. Altering a photo on a dating site to the point of being unrecognizable makes no sense. After all, you’re looking for a partner, and they want to know who’s behind that nice, appealing profile. By the way, only you should be in the photo; it’s too early to include any children or other family members. Or do you want to be chosen because of your children? Using photo-editing software makes sense for removing blemishes or similar issues, but smile lines should definitely be preserved. The photo you use should be as recent as possible and updated to reflect any changes, such as a new haircut. Remember, the photo is your calling card—you don’t have much else to make a first impression.
Fill out your profile honestly
“Lies have short legs!” goes the saying, and there’s an incredible amount of truth to it. So it’s best to avoid fibbing in your profile about your height, age, and weight. The truth will come out anyway when you actually meet in person—and the same goes for your education and career. No one will stick with a relationship built on a lie. Not to mention that you yourself wouldn’t want to be lied to either. Your profile headline should reflect who you are, pique curiosity, and definitely not be too flowery. When describing your hobbies, you can, of course, mention that you enjoy reading, going for walks, hiking, or similar activities. However, this is mentioned in hundreds of profiles, so it comes across as rather boring and half-heartedly filled out. What sets you apart from the other singles over 30 who are looking for a life partner? The same applies to the part of the profile where you’re asked to describe yourself—your friends can help you with this by describing you. Write positively, because a positive outlook on life is much more appealing. Be honest about everything—which also means honestly addressing what you’re looking for in a future partner. Even if that means only a few men will feel drawn to you.
A Word About Safety
Your name, address, and primary email address have no place in your profile. If you get to know a man better, give him a disposable email address for further contact; the same applies when contacting him by phone. Get a prepaid cell phone whose number you can change at any time if necessary. There’s still time to share your actual address even after the first meeting—the same goes for your last name. If you live in a small village, list the nearest large city as your hometown. If you don’t want to lie, just say “near…” The first meeting should take place in a public place. It’s also a good idea to let a female friend in on the details; give her all the information you have about your date. This includes the name of the dating site and your username. You’ve probably heard this and similar advice many times before, but you should still follow it for your own safety.
