There are no rules for the first time you have sex—it just happens, or it can be planned or staged. But there are tips for the first time, and a few things to consider as well: for example, safe sex to avoid the risk of infection or an unwanted pregnancy. The most important thing is a minimum level of “comfort,” which doesn’t mean you have to make love in bed the first time. It also matters whether one of the partners is having sex for the first time in their life or whether two experienced adults who are newly in love are getting together. Very important: The couple should take their time—whether during the day, at dusk, or at night. The weekend might be a good time for this, so you can stay together the next morning and perhaps even enjoy a cozy Sunday breakfast together.
No heavy meals, no alcohol
Whether you eat or drink before your first time depends on the time of day. In any case, you should avoid heavy meals and too much alcohol. While drinks may help many people let their guard down, they can also have unpleasant side effects such as erectile dysfunction, nausea, or an increased urge to urinate. Many people find outdoor sex very exciting, but you’re often not left undisturbed or get bothered by hay, pine needles, sand, or insects. In addition, having a bathroom nearby can enhance not only safety but also the erotic atmosphere. This way, you can explore each other’s bodies while showering or bathing together. By caressing different parts of each other’s bodies and observing the resulting reactions, a couple gets to know each other well. Partners don’t need much more than mutual desire for their first time, but condoms, a few soft pillows, and a towel should be on hand. Drinks and glasses shouldn’t be too far out of reach either.
This way, it's sure to work the first time
Many women—and especially inexperienced young girls—are reluctant to take the initiative the first time. A little initiative is necessary to show the man what you like and where you’d like to be touched. The woman can also control and adjust the intensity and pace. An uninhibited and natural blend of tenderness, passion, and devotion appeals to almost all men and gets them going. After all, not every man can handle the first time without any issues—it’s common for nervousness to affect a man’s performance. With a little empathy—rather than through an argument—it should be possible to quickly resolve this minor mishap.
